It’s that time of year again when people are starting to reach out to me. I’m happy to say that I can use the hard experiences of my life to educate other people, hopefully to save them from making similar mistakes in their lives.
This week, I’ve been invited to speak at a pharmaceutical company regarding both issues, drawing on my own unfortunate life experiences. It’s amazing that there truly is little to no difference between the two issues: bullying and domestic violence both involve the manipulation and control of others’ emotions.
According to nobullying.org:
Bullying comes in various forms, and there is no unified definition of it that is accepted by science, governments, and educational systems. Many factors appear to be related to bullying, and one of the more recently explored of those factors is violence in the home. Domestic violence now appears to be highly correlated with the incidence of bullying found in schools. And it isn’t just related to the perpetrators of bullying. Perhaps surprisingly, domestic violence demonstrates a positive correlation with three groups that are involved: The bullies, the victims, and those who demonstrate both conditions.
In the home, it can create an environment of enormous stress, the constant feeling of walking around on eggshells, especially when/if illegal drugs addiction and alcoholism are involved. In the school and workplace, the same stress exists along with feelings of hopelessness.
As I begin my tour, speaking about my experiences and sharing what I have learned about how to escape and to protect yourself, I welcome others to step forward and speak out against these two societal issues. Since 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence at some point in their life, look around you and realize that it could be someone sitting next to you. As for children (and adults), social media increasingly facilitates the aggressive attacks on individuals: “The means for, and likelihood of, bullying increase proportionately as technology continues to advance. Other previously identified risk factors included tobacco, drug, and alcohol use/abuse; poor academic performance; and mental health problems.” (nobullying.org). Many times, these perpetrators will project their own issues onto their victims as a means of denying their problem.
It’s a vicious cycle. Through education, we can address the societal problems caused by these horrible acts of mental and physical violence. As my speaking tour begins to get scheduled for autumn 2014, I welcome invitations to speak at your organizations.