First of all, remember that what a human says does not define us. ONLY what God says defines us. He says we are His children:
John 1:12 (AMP) But to as many as did receive and welcome Him, He gave the authority (power, privilege, right) to become the children of God, that is, to those who believe in (adhere to, trust in, and rely on) His name—
If you were a child of verbal/emotional abuse, pray that God will break those unhealthy ties in your life so that your children will not suffer the same consequences. The Bible tells us to be careful in how we speak to our children:
Ephesians 6:4 (AMP) Fathers, do not irritate and provoke your children to anger [do not exasperate them to resentment], but rear them [tenderly] in the training and discipline and the counsel and admonition of the Lord.
Colossians 3:21 (AMP) Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children [do not be hard on them or harass them], lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. [Do not break their spirit.]
It’s important to forgive the person who wounded you. Unforgiveness will only continue hurt you. Let God handle the other person. You are only responsible for your actions and reactions. Without a forgiving heart, we cannot expect to be gracious to others, right? We have to give grace to receive grace.
Mark 11:25 (AMP) And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him and let it drop (leave it, let it go), in order that your Father Who is in heaven may also forgive you your [own] failings and shortcomings and let them drop.
Finally, when you make a mistake, ask forgiveness. We all know when we’ve said something we shouldn’t have. Go to your child and say you are sorry. Children need to see the example set by the adults in their lives. (this goes for adult relationships as well, of course) I know there have been many times I have had to humble myself in front of my boys and tell them I was wrong.
James 5:16 (AMP) Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].
Lisa Bull sees her life as a journey along God’s divine plan. While considering herself an expert on nothing, she enjoys laughing and has made “choosing joy” her motto. Lisa has experienced God’s unfailing love and grace in her life and wants nothing more than for others to enjoy that same gift in their lives.
Lisa is the daughter and granddaughter of ministers. She has multiple relatives in ministry on both sides of her father’s family including several pastors, pastor’s wives, and missionaries. In fact, ministry in her maternal grandmother’s family can be traced back several generations. She loves being a wife and mother of two terrific young men.