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Dear Sarah: On What to Wear When Visiting An Amish Farm

Dear Sarah,

Your emoji dress the other day was so adorable! You always seem to have something pretty to wear. I was wondering what you wear when you go to the Amish farms or church.


Beth R.

P.S. To answer your question, I’m the [ ๐Ÿ™‚ ] right now.


Hi Beth,

Ha ha on the [ ๐Ÿ™‚ ]. I love that dress, too. For anyone who didn’t see that video, it’s on Facebook ย I actually wore it to dancing and the other women thought it was really cute, too. It’s my daughter’s dress and she never wore it. So I “borrowed” it forever.

Now, onto business…Amish business…

Today, when I’m visiting my Amish friends, I dress just like I would if I was at home. Now, mind you, I tend to wear only dresses (unless I’m in a cowgirl mood). But I would have no problem wearing pants to an Amish farm. If you watch my videos, you may have noticed that I wear makeup and have my nails done. That, too, stays. And, as for my hair, well…not much I can do with short hair. ๐Ÿ˜€

What I have found is that the Amish are very accepting of our different styles…in life and fashion. It helps that I am extremely respectful of their choices.

The last time that I was out at the farm in Lancaster, I made a comment to my friend that I noticed her daughter had painted her toe nails. She groaned and said, “Ja, she was away all weekend being naughty.”

Mind you, my first thought was “Gee, if that’s as naughty as Cat ever gets, I’ll take it.” However, my friend said it with a smile and didn’t really think her daughter was naughty…just testing the world during her rumschpringe.

But we started talking about nail polish and I showed her my nails.

Me: (teasing her) I must be really naughty.

Friend: (laughs) It looks good on you. It wouldn’t look so good on me though.

Me: Really? It could. You just have to get used to it.

Friend: Ja but farm work is too hard to have pretty nails like that.

So you see, it isn’t that they don’t want it or that they aren’t allowed it…they realize the practicality of not doing something like painting your nails every week. They might consider it vain (full disclosure: it is), but they do not judge the non-Amish for doing it. Likewise, they don’t seem to mind my clothing.

Another true story…

When I had cancer, just as my hair was beginning to grow back, I went to visit some of my friends. I never wore a wig during my cancer treatment. Instead, I wore hats with gorgeous scarves wrapped around my head. Well, I had a full house sitting at my feet when I was telling this story. The children’s eyes were BIG and WIDE as I told them how I wore “gypsy” scarves to hide my bald head. I acted out being a gypsy, even getting up and pretending to dance. They loved it and applauded when I was done telling my stories about people coming up to me in restaurants to commend me for not wearing wigs.

Now, as for church and funerals, I wear black. Plain and simple. Black. No head covering. No stockings (unless it’s really cold out). Just a plain black dress. I do not try to be someone that I am not. I think the Amish respect me for that. Sometimes I hum along with the hymns. Other times, I just listen to the beautiful songs. They are sung in High German so I have no idea what they are singing…except I have a special Ausbund book that has the translations.

So, I don’t really change what I wear, just as I do not change who I am. I think that is a main reason why the Amish have accepted me into their culture. The other is that I respect them and they can sense that, too.

Hope that answers your question! <3

Hugs and Blessings,


P.S. My emoji today ended up being ?

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One thought on “Dear Sarah: On What to Wear When Visiting An Amish Farm

  1. I dress modestly when I go to my Amish friends….no halter tops, so short shorts, nothing skimpy. I respect them and show that respect by wearing cloths that would not embarrass them. HOWEVER, when I first starting going to their house, 25+ years ago, their daughter told me she would never forget what I wore….LOL!!! I would wear my LOUD tie dye shirts…they thought I was so funny! Like Sarah, when going to a funeral or visitation, it’s just simple black…no jewelry, nothing that would bring attention to myself…not the time or place. Just dress for respect and don’t try to be who you are not….they are very accepting and we continue to laugh about my tie dye days and the year I decided to be a RED head and the kids decided to call me “Red”, now they just call me “Granny”!!!

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